The Love List:
Attracting the Love of Your Life Without Looking Tomorrow is Valentine's Day, and as someone who feels pretty darned lucky in love, I wanted to share with everyone who is not in a romantic, loving relationship a simple technique to ensure that by this time next year ... if you really want to ... you can be enjoying a relationship which makes your heart soar.
I believe with all my heart that anyone with the TRUE desire to love and be loved unconditionally, CAN find and sustain a lasting, loving, relationship.
So, what's this Love List thing all about?
Well, it's a well known fact that the things we put our attention to without any kind of neediness or attachment come into being. By now, the whole world has learned about the Law of Attraction through movies and books like "The Secret," unfortunately, "The Secret" only works when people understand HOW to WANT something without neediness or attachment.
You see, most of us are pretty darned attached to love relationships. Most of the time it takes loving and losing and loving and losing over and over again, for us to finally understand that we can love, and it can end, and we can find love again. That no matter how crazy in love we may feel we are with someone, and how horrible it feels when they reject us, or the relationship ends for some other reason, that we CAN not only get over it, but love someone else even more than we thought possible.
Just know that it's true. Even if you haven't experienced something yourself yet, understand that this is a fact. You can love. It can end. You can love again.
There's lots of love out there for you. It doesn't matter how old you are, what you look like, where you live, whether you have some kind of disability, whether you have money or not, there is love out there ready to be given to you, too.
And here's the best part: the more you love the more you get back.
So, let's get to it.
Find yourself a beautiful small blank book. Go ahead and splurge a little. You want this book to feel beautiful and wonderful. Just looking at it should make you feel good. While you're at it, buy a nice pen, too.
This blank book is now your book of love lists.
On the very first page write the words: "I Love ..."
On the inside pages, you're going to create separate, numbered lists of things you love.
I like to write sideways on the edge of the page (like tabs) my categories. Because your first goal is to attract THE perfect love into your life, you'll want to start with the following categories:
MY LIFE - list things you love about your life right now
MYSELF - list things you love about you (this isn't about being arrogant, it's about learning about and acknowledging those unique gifts we each have to offer)
BEING in a GREAT RELATIONSHIP - what are you favorite memories of your past love relationships? what things did you love doing with a romantic partner? no one is going to grade this list or judge it, so be yourself and be honest about what thrilled you about being in a romantic relationship. Also list those things you WISH you could have in a relationship, as if they already exist. Always use the present tense in your lists.
MY IDEAL PARTNER - just as with the great relationship list, look at your past relationships and think about the qualities that person had that you loved about them. Just the good stuff, ignore the rest. If there is something in a relationship that you know you do NOT want, for instance, you might not want someone who smokes cigarettes. Be sure to list what you DO want on your list: My ideal partner is a non-smoker. Don't edit. Just dream. You want the PERFECT partner for YOU. It doesn't matter what your friends like, or what other people think. This is your private perfect partner list.
You can continue and create categories for anything that comes to mind. Your ideal home. Music you love. Movies you love. Books you love. People you'd love to meet. Places you would love to go. Just play and have fun and every time you think of something that you just LOVE, go ahead and write it down in your book.
Lists make this technique easy. You don't have to write long descriptive paragraphs or anything fancy. Just jot down a quick line every time you think about it.
When we begin focusing on the things we love about life and relationships and ourselves, rather than dwelling on what may seem to be missing or imperfect, magical things happen.
This book is your magic wand, and your lists are your spells.
Your romantic partner is looking for you, and those spells will weave a path that will bring them into your life.
To your success and happiness,
Gayanna Magcosta
Lifestyle Designer and Solutions Broker
http://www.lifestyledesigner.net
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Contributor's Note
Within 3 months of making my list, I had met the man I'm still crazy about 6 years later. My list was so specific and detailed, that if I had shown it to anyone, I'm sure they would have told me I was asking for too much. The truth is you don't have to compromise or settle for anything. When you settle, you are saying you don't value yourself and your likes enough, and you can't build a lasting relationship when you don't value yourself enough to wait until you find exactly what you want. You deserve to live the life of your dreams. Don't settle for anything less. Happy Valentine's Day!
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